I really hate to say it, but tonight’s raid was extremely unpleasant for me at the end. Many of you who were on vent heard me, I’m sure. I do know that I added in my 2c in the jokes at the beginning, and I accept responsibility for that, but after a while it just got to be too much for me. I’m extremely sensitive to this because I have gay friends and family. I would appreciate that the gay jokes and taunts be kept to a minimum in the future, both in vent and in /g chat. You may call me overly sensitive (and I got that at my last guild on Hyjal) and that’s okay. All I’m asking for is for folks to be a little bit more aware. This being said, I’m really not looking forward to the next raid night. I think I need some time to cool off a bit, so I may not be on much over the next couple of days. I got a lot of support from some of the officers and was feeling good about things, but then I got a comment from another member:
I think you are taking us too seriously. First of all, i have gay friends too, and we arent making fun of gay people. We are just joking around as friends that we are in love. But really we are just kidding around. maybe it seems as though we are discriminating against gay people. But the same could be said about you making this an issue. What if perhaps we really were gay and we told we werent allowed to talk about it. That would be worse than a few light-hearted jokes between friends… I will try and watch it around you. Or keep it more tasteful.I was trying *not* to take things too seriously, really I was. But after a while, it got to be a bit much and it bothered me. To be honest, I really wouldn’t have cared if they really were gay, and I would have let them continue… But since I’ve heard them for the last several months, I know this not to be the case. I agree that it would be worse than a few jokes between friends, but there were others present. Just like in our harassment training, all it takes is one person to feel uncomfortable and you have an uncomfortable environment. To be honest, now that I’ve read that reply again, I’m not so bitter, but I’m still not really comfortable hopping back into Raid with the guild. I’m really trying now to decide what I want to do next. I really like this guild and I have enjoyed running with them in the past. I’m not really thrilled about respec’ing for certain boss fights – that gets extremely expensive after a while. I dunno. I guess I’ll just play my drood for a while and see how I feel in a few days. Well, thanks for taking the time to watch me vent a bit. I’m going to go watch TV or something. Thanks for visiting and Keep Coming Back!!!]]>